Your wedding day will be busy, but it doesn’t have to be chaotic or a whirlwind. You can make a plan to spend some dedicated time with your special people. I think that planning out a special moment with the people you love on your wedding day is a MUST! And there are lots of different ways to make it happen. It can be a first look, helping you get ready, or even just chilling and eating a bite together! But if you don’t plan for it in advance, you run the risk of that moment never happening. Here are three tips to help ensure you get that time with special people.
1. Plan it out.
The more you plan ahead, the more flexible your day is. A plan is built to serve you, and prioritize the important things, not to cramp your style.
Think of getting directions from your phone as you drive. Sure, you don’t have to “take the next exit”, but if you don’t follow the phone-voice and the best plan, you will miss the special place to which you are heading. The directions aren’t bossing you around, they are helping you get where you need to be in the most efficient manner. A “special person” plan is like that.
By making a point to spend time with your grandparent, parent, bestie, etc, (even if it’s just for a few minutes) you won’t miss out and you get to add all the extra feels to your special day!
2. Communicate with those special people.
Be sure to tell the special people on your list you want to have some dedicated time with them on your wedding day! Guests want to support you and love on you, but no one wants to get in the way. So don’t ever assume they won’t want the special time. They just aren’t sure when it works best or if you’re too busy. Let them know.
Tell them the time and place to meet. It can be right before family photos, or right before the ceremony, or any other spot you think works well. That way they can anticipate it and plan for it. And you can too. Let them know it may just be time for a hug, but you want to make sure it happens. They will be honored that you thought of them. And if they get to give you one last squeeze before you walk down the aisle, let them know when and where! I love to help my couples plan for these important moments.
3. Remove expectations.
We don’t live in a movie. No one has a script for the “right” thing to say on your wedding day. It’s ok if your dad doesn’t cry or your grandma doesn’t know what to say. Or if your sibling doesn’t have the right clothes or tie on or if your dog isn’t jumping for joy. This is all new for them too!
I don’t want to be a downer, but disappointment shows up after unmet expectations. And disappointment does not have a place on your wedding day! 🥳❤️👏 It’s too great of a day! So set your heart and mind right now to remove your expectations. It’s an emotional day for everyone. Your loved ones will be so excited just to see you, let alone have special time with you! Soak in all the love, however it looks or sounds!
Please don’t hear this as another thing to add to your “to do” list. When I cover this topic with clients they are relieved to know nothing–and no one–will be missed. It’s a great reminder for all of us–plan special moments with your special ones! Especially on your big day! I hope that you feel that love throughout your lives together, and especially on your wedding day. Your special people are one in a million and so is your day! What a perfect match!